There’s this guy that I’ve been out with four times now and we’re going out tomorrow night as well. He’s quirky but nice, so far I like him. He has a few issues, I mean who doesn’t, but one of his almost resulted in us not going out more than twice.
He’s a computer nerd, you know, the type that likes to hack out some Linux code in his spare time. So he’s a bit quieter than the type I normally go for but the chatty type doesn’t seem to be working for me so I thought I would try to broaden my horizons. And in terms of being quiet he extends that to all communication. I mean I rarely hear from him in between dates. He doesn’t like to text and has yet to phone me even though he has my number. I am taking his lead on this so far as his aversion to texting resulted in a misunderstanding that lasted a couple of weeks and almost resulted in us not seeing each other again. However, the lack of communication makes him seem like a casual friend as opposed to someone who kisses me good night at the end of a date.
I guess maybe this is what casual dating is, two people hanging out and enjoying each others company and at the end of the night a quick kiss and then not hearing from them for several days. It’s different than what I am used to. Normally, I only go out with guys that I am interested in pursuing some kind of relationship with, and things accelerate a lot faster than this, at least there is more communication. I’m not saying I’m not interested in pursuing a relationship with this guy but I’m not sure if that is where this is going. Perhaps this is just taking it slow. I don’t know, it seems a little foreign to me.
Did I mention that he is moving at some point in the not too distant future, date still TBD? He is leaving his current job at some point (it is a process) and moving closer to his daughter. I get that, it’s one of the things that I like about him, that he wants to spend more time with his daughter. But it also makes me wonder if this will only just be casual dating. And I wonder how I feel about that fact. (Of course I need to over-analyze everything, it’s what I do.) Perhaps casual dating is good for me to try on for size, maybe the reason I haven’t found anyone great yet is that I try to rush everything.
I guess I am just thinking out loud about this whole thing and perhaps the reason why I am evaluating it is because I am meeting another guy tonight for our first meet-up ;). I feel like it is ok since things are so casual with guy #1 so far and there is no indication that it will turn into more than it is, especially with his impending move.
Plus, I have no expectations for tonight, in fact if it is a bust I am hoping I can still make it to my badminton group after. If it isn’t a bust I guess it’ll be worth missing badminton for, lol.
If anyone wants to share their two cents on casual dating I’d love to hear it.