Dating in your teens or early 20s is a cake-walk compared to dating in your 40s. You know what a cake-walk is, right? When you pay to walk in a circle hoping you win cake… I may be showing my age.
- When you are in your 20s, you are less likely to have had multiple serious relationships which is no big deal because no one cares. When you are in your 40s, people question why you’ve never been married before or married multiple times and then judge you for both options.
- When you are in your 20s, you don’t have to label what type of relationship you are looking for, you just go out and have a good time. When you are in your 40s, you want to date people based on where they are in life: are they looking for a relationship, looking to get married, looking for just dating, looking for friends, wanting to hang out… and you have to hope that everyone’s definition of each thing coincides with your own.
- When you are in your 20s, you actually have time to date. When you are in your 40s, you have to find time to fit someone new into your already over-scheduled life and they have to find time to fit you into theirs.
- When you are in your 20s, you rarely have children to deal with or schedule around. When you are in your 40s, you have to try to figure out how to date while juggling your kids plus the other person’s kids. Or if one of you has no kids, then you probably don’t understand why the person with kids can’t make more time for you.
- When you are in your 20s, you are not scarred by the devastation of divorce or a spouse dying. When you are in your 40s, you have to patch up your wounds as much as possible before you are even ready to date again with the hopes of finding someone who isn’t completely dead inside.
- When you are in your 20s, you are less likely to have preconceived notions about the people you meet. When you are in your 40s, people tend to be quicker to jump to conclusions about others based on their past experience, baggage and if you chew your food the wrong way.
- When you are in your 20s, you are open to possibilities and flexible enough to accommodate a potential partner. When you are in your 40s, most people only want to date on their terms or not at all.
And if trying to date isn’t miserable enough, how about those nights when there are no date options in sight:
- When you are in your 20s, if you don’t have a date on Friday night, you can go hang out with all of your single friends. When you are in your 40s, all of your friends seem to be paired off and your dateless Friday night will be filled with ice cream, tissues and chick flicks (or beer, hockey and no pants).
If you think I’m wrong and dating in your 20s is worse than in your 40s, feel free to jump in and voice your opinion. Being in my 40s, I probably won’t take it seriously but I’d love a good laugh :).