Remember the guy I went out with 4 times? We were supposed to go out again and then he cancelled at the last minute. His excuse was slightly lame but did have the potential to be real so I assumed he was telling me the truth. After 2 weeks of not hearing from him I decided to text him. I thought that the reason I didn’t hear from him was his aversion to texting and not his aversion to me, lol.
The reason why I say that I thought he was interested was because he acted like it when we were together. We had fun when we got together and the very last time we went out, before we parted, he asked me when we could get together again. HE ASKED ME. I didn’t fawn over him, he asked me about getting together again. A couple of days later we made plans for the date that he cancelled. He seemed enthusiastic so I am not sure what happened. Perhaps he met someone else within those couple of days between our date, no idea.
Anyway, back to texting him… we exchanged some pleasantries and then me being me, I got right to my point and asked him why I hadn’t heard from him as he had seemed to be somewhat interested… I didn’t word it like that but you get the drift. Anyway, this is the first part of what he wrote back, “I’m not privy to your expectations”. Wha? Lol. Seriously, I didn’t have any expectations. I just thought that we got along well and that, in theory, we were going to go out again. I mean, last time we were together, he asked me when we were getting together again…Well now I know, based on his formal reply that there will be no future dates. I’m not heart-broken, just glad to be in the loop.
That’s the thing about dating these days, everyone complains about the BS, but the reason there is so much BS is that people just stop talking to you. There’s no “no thanks, I’m not interested” or “let’s just be friends”. People just disappear off the planet and it’s frustrating. Everyone who dates is guilty of it, including me. We don’t want to offend the other person so we just say nothing instead of creating some sense of closure. I guess I shouldn’t complain if I’m participating in the madness but I still find it frustrating.