What a year 2013 has been for me.
I have always wanted to blog, and guess what? I did it. I blogged for a whole year, 198 blog posts in 2013. Wow!!
And during this blogging adventure I have learned some new things, changed the way I look at some things and really made progress towards living a happier life by myself. Recently, I participated in a Winter Solstice Ritual and because of that I’ve taken a quick review of 2013 (and by quick review, I mean I took 3 days to read every single one of my blog posts). From this review I have taken stock of some of the wisdom I’ve gleaned and will carry forward into 2014 with me.
The whole year was not one big ray of sunshine but I’m starting 2014 with some positive energy and personal strengths that will serve me well in the new year. So here is the Wisdom I’m Bringing into 2014 (and there is a lot of it, 52 weeks worth):
- You CAN choose your thoughts – once upon a time I didn’t think this was true and just let my thoughts get carried away on tangents that weren’t all that healthy. Now I know that by simply acknowledging the thoughts and redirecting them, you can change your thinking. It’s a powerful tool that I am happy to have discovered.
- Micro-movements or baby steps are the key to success – I have often felt overwhelmed by big tasks and then avoided them or told myself that I couldn’t do them. But this blog is proof that micro-movements can turn into big things. 198 blog posts weren’t written in one day and if I had thought I needed to write 198 blog posts on Jan 1, 2013 I may have given up before I started, but one post at a time brought me to post 199 which I’m writing today :). And SARK has helped me realize that you can break your steps down into tiny, little movements if they aren’t small enough the first time.
- Perspective can help you stay positive – not every day is a bowl full of cherries, but my life is pretty good in the big scheme of things. I have a nice place to live, a regular income, 2 great kids and I’m pretty healthy. Lots of folks don’t have any of those things.
- Don’t be afraid to reach out to friends when you need someone to talk to – this one is pretty self-explanatory.
- Personal change takes time and effort – change is often not a quick option, it takes practice and effort and commitment.
- Take the time to review what you have accomplished – often we are quick to say that we haven’t done anything in our lives but if you really think about it you will find that that isn’t true at all. Sometimes we need reminders.
- Be generous – sometimes we get so caught up in our own lives that we forget to help others. It doesn’t take much effort to be nice or lend a helping hand or to donate to a worthy charity. Be generous with your words, thoughts and actions, it helps make the world a better place.
- It’s OK to look after yourself – for many years I put my kids first and ignored doing things for myself. This really isn’t good for you. It’s important to pursue your own happiness and joy. No one can live your life for you.
- Live in the Now – be present for your experiences. Spend less time regretting your past and worrying about your future. Focus on the beauty that is your life right now.
- Always take time for fun – plan fun activities. Plan silly and crazy activities. Plan outrageous activities. Plan adventures. Plan outings. Plan trips. Plan picnics, photo shoots, trips to the beach, walks in the woods, scavenger hunts. Then do them all!!
- Confidence, intelligence and a positive attitude is sexy – ‘nuf said.
- Unplug – take time to get outside and enjoy nature, your electronic devices will still be there when you get back.
- Finding your Passion may be surprising when you really get down to it – I expected my passion to be surrounded by excitement and fervour, it turned out that it was more of a thought that kept trying to get noticed but got pushed back down by “I can’t” and “later”.
- Make an effort to keep in touch with friends – they became your friend for a reason in the first place.
- Not all friendships are meant to last forever – some people are just passing through your life and teaching you lessons along the way.
- Make memories – spend time with friends and families, go on adventures together. The memories are worth more than material items.
- I’m ready for a real relationship – I haven’t found that person yet, but I’m no longer scared of making plans with someone or discussing the future. It seems more plausible now than a year ago.
- Some things may seem scary and hard but we can do them if we keep trying – perseverance, practice and dedication to a goal is important and when you are on the verge of giving up, try a new approach.
- People Will Treat You the Way that You Allow Yourself to be Treated – this one took a couple of lessons and I’m not 100% sure I have learned it yet. Hopefully it will sink in soon.
- Never use the words “We need to talk” – it only makes people jump to bad conclusions.
- I like walking – walking makes me thankful for my strong legs. I’m looking forward to more walks in the Spring.
- Eating healthier and moving more will make you healthier.
- I am enough – I’m smart, I have skills and talents, I’m lovable and I am enough.
- Even negative things can have positive aspects – like being unemployed.
- Over-thinking causes more issues than it solves – I’m an over-thinker, is there a support group for that? Living more in the present helps with this but it is a learning process.
- Secrets can hold us back – let them go, it will lessen their grip on you.
- Negative feelings don’t respond to reason – let them pour forth and release them to the universe, you don’t need to be their caretaker.
- Sometimes what you ask for shows up in a different form than expected – embrace it and be thankful.
- Your inner-wise self has answers – ask her questions, ask her for help and have her write you love notes.
- Expressing your words is a form of success – speak up, be heard, write, and be happy that you have written.
- I’m creative and imaginative – it often sneaks up on me and I don’t even notice.
- I should proof-read my blog posts more – ther seem to be severl typos.
- Always move forward – onto new and better chapters.
That is an impressive amount of wisdom for one year! I’ll have to come back and visit this post often to remember what I’ve learned.