I have 2 sisters. I’m very lucky as they are also my best friends.
It wasn’t always this way, growing up there were plenty of skirmishes. My older sister and I had our fair share but my younger sister and I really did not get along. There are 5.5 years between my younger sister and I and my Mom says that I resented her because I was the baby until she came along. I can neither confirm not deny that as I have no idea if that was the reason or not but I do know that we fought like cats and dogs. Things finally worked themselves out between us when I moved out at 18 and went to university.
Part of what helped us resolve things was a family crisis and another part was the space. The crisis gave us some common ground and the space allowed us to not be in each other’s hair all of the time. I’m not saying the crisis was a good thing, it wasn’t. But if I’m trying to look for the silver lining, I think that it was the beginning of a new understanding of each other.
Now the 3 of us are grown and we truly enjoy each other’s company. Even though I would consider myself an introvert, I never have any trouble talking to my sisters. I know that our shared history is a huge part of it, it means that we have similar values and definitely a similar upbringing. But not all siblings are close. I think that we just “get” each other. We accept each other’s strengths and weaknesses, we are always supportive and we love each other unconditionally. Those are key ingredients to any type of good relationship.
I’m just super lucky to have that relationship with 2 of the most important women in my life!