How long would it take someone to miss me if something happened to me?
That is a question that started swirling through my head last night after I got home from my waterfall hunt. I’m not feeling sorry for myself and thinking no one would miss me if I was gone. People WOULD miss me. I’ve got two kids that would cry for ages if something happened to me, and my extended family plus a few close friends would all miss me as well. I do play a role here on this planet.
But I was literally thinking “how long would it take someone to miss me if something happened to me”. Like last night when I went walking in the woods, what if I got hurt there and couldn’t access my phone… No one knew where I was, no one was waiting for me to get back. Being single and unemployed can take you off the radar a little bit.
If I was single and working and didn’t show up for work today then people would wonder where I was. But I’m not working. I’m expected to pick up the youngest from school so I guess that is when people would start to wonder what happened to me. The school would try to call and my ex would wonder what was up when the school called him because they couldn’t reach me.
I was in the woods last night at 8 pm and no one would realize I was missing until 3:15 pm today, at the earliest. 19+ hours later. That is a lot of time to be hurt in the woods with no one looking for you.
On the weeks when my kids are with me the time frame would be shorter since I’m with them in the evenings, I get them off to school in the morning, and I pick the youngest up from school in the afternoon.
But let’s extrapolate this to single people everywhere. Those that have jobs would have people looking for them at work the next day. But how hard would your co-workers look for you if you didn’t show up? I guess they would try to contact you and if they couldn’t it would raise alarms at some point. But how long would it take for the alarms to be raised? Would it be that day or the following day when you didn’t show up for work for the second day in a row? Or the third?
Now singles with no jobs, who live on their own… How long does it take someone to notice that they are missing? A day? Two? A week?
Now I know what you are thinking, surely friends or family would notice. Yes, people meet with and talk with their friends and family all the time. I meet with friends, as a matter of fact I went for coffee with a friend yesterday. But if I hadn’t shown up, would my friend have just assumed that I couldn’t make it and continued on with her day? I know she would have sent me a text, perhaps even tried to call eventually if I didn’t answer, but it wouldn’t have been an immediate alarm. And if she got distracted by the busyness of her own life she may not have even followed up again for a couple of days. I also talk to my family fairly regularly, but there is no consistent schedule of meetings with them or with my friends. It is all very haphazard.
Most single people with no jobs and who live on their own have no one checking up on them on a daily basis. No one who they check in with to say “Hey, just wanted to let you know I’m still alive”. Is this a service that is needed? Is this a niche that needs to be filled? And would anyone use it if someone created it? I’m not sure I would. But this whole issue is certainly making me think about it. What are your thoughts?