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Crime and Punishment, the Teenage Version

Sunday Tasmanian Version

Sunday Tasmanian Version (Photo credit: Tama Leaver)

I used to work in social media so I’m very familiar with the ins and outs of various social networks. I’ve been exposed to the good that happens because of social media and I’ve been exposed to the bad.

Because of this experience, I’m cautious when it comes to my kids using social media. We’ve discussed the merits and the pitfalls that are associated with social media. My oldest is on Facebook but she is also forced to have her father and me as her friends on Facebook.

A while ago she asked me if she could join Snapchat, I said No. Snapchat has a reputation for being used a lot when sexting and sending inappropriate photos around the interwebs. I know that not everyone uses it for that but I’m cautious, and I haven’t been sold on why my daughter needs to be on that particular social network.

During this past weekend I was perusing her iPod touch and found that she had joined Snapchat after all. Needless to say, I was not happy.

In the following “discussion” surrounding her having the app on her iPod, she claimed that she didn’t remember me saying that she couldn’t download the app, in fact, she claimed that she didn’t remember discussing the app with me at all.

I know for a fact that we discussed Snapchat more than once and I remember (vividly) telling her that she couldn’t use it when she asked me. Therefore I have taken her iPod touch and laptop for 2 weeks. At the end of the 2 weeks, she can have it back but she will have to remove Snapchat and review everything that is on her iPod touch with me. Of course she thinks I’m being extremely unfair.

After she spent the afternoon being angry with me she actually started talking to me again. She still thinks that I’m being unfair and she is using the argument that she has a bad memory and does not remember the Snapchat conversation. She isn’t going so far as saying that I shouldn’t be angry or that she shouldn’t be punished, she just thinks that I’m over-reacting and that 2 weeks is excessive.

Let’s say that she actually forgot the conversation, I mean, she is a good kid. She rarely gets in trouble. She rarely gets punished. I think that her father has never taken her iPod touch from her and I’ve only taken it for as long as the weekend in previous incidents. Is the jump from 2 days of punishment to 2 weeks of punishment too severe? I haven’t changed my mind but I am thinking about what she has said. Would one week have made the same point?

I’d love to hear other opinions. Feel free to share. Parenting is hard enough without trying to do it in a vacuum.

Just Looking for Friends – More Dating Adventures

There’s this guy I’ve been chatting with for about 2 weeks. Funny, smart, good job, articulate, stuff in common with me, lots of good qualities… One major strike though is that he tells me that he has only been separated for 6 months. 6 months really isn’t that long when you’re separated from the mother of your children.

On another note, I’m computer savvy. I can find my way around the internet.

While talking with this guy he has shared some details of his life. Enough details that I have Googled him and found out his last name. This information has led me to his Twitter account. And… the conversations he has had with his ex. (As a matter of fact, I’m following his ex on Twitter, did I mention I live in a small city?) Anyway, based on these conversations they have not been separated for 6 months… it looks more like 3 months. As a matter of fact, she brought him back cheese curds from her recent trip to Quebec, and by recent, I mean about a week ago.

I guess his online dating profile did indicate that he was mostly looking for friends but was open to the possibility of a relationship. Perhaps he thinks he’s ready for a relationship but I highly doubt it.

Anyway, this doesn’t mean I’m not going to meet him this week as planned. I mean who can’t use more friends? I just need to approach this meeting as a “friends” meeting and not as a potential mate meeting. I wish I didn’t already feel attracted to him on some level though. We will just have to take things super slow and keep things on the “friends” page for a long time before pursuing anything else, if he actually wants to.

All I need is one awesome guy, who is available, and who likes me, and I like him, and who has enough money that I don’t have to worry about work, and all of my problems will be solved. Is that too much to ask??

Want to know something funny? He said that he has no Facebook account because he knows what happens to our data on there. Seriously… he even has pictures of his daughter posted on his Twitter account. At least Facebook has privacy settings.

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